Why the oldest joke is also the one that costs the most — and how “you are what you are looking for” stops being a slogan There is a sentence you have probably met before, on a card or a wall or the back of a tea box: you are what you are looking for. […]
Why the more you walk, the less you arrive — and how being over doing becomes a lived fact instead of a slogan There is an accounting I have been keeping for years now, and it refuses to add up the way a life is supposed to. The more I walk — the more faithfully
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Why a chronic problem never falls to direct attack — and what kind of synthesis it finally dissolves in Most problems in a life respond to competence. You analyse them, you work at them, they move. This post is about the other kind — the one problem that has not moved. The chronic one. The
Why what you react to keeps coming back — and what changes the moment you meet it instead of fighting it I want to be careful with this one from the first sentence, because the title can be misheard. This is not the idea that the universe sends back whatever you put out, that your
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Seven micro-actions I return to through the day — and why staying focused, calm and alert turns out to be something that happens, not something I do I want to be honest about the title before we go further, because it promises something I am going to partly take back. These seven small things do
What it means that no method can free you — and why you can only make your own way by walking it I want to start with the thing I spent thirty years looking for, because I no longer believe it exists. The method. The right practice, the right teacher, the right sequence of steps
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What a Covenant with the One and Only Truth actually is — and why it can be neither signed nor broken I want to begin with the fear, because I know it from the inside. The fear that I have, somewhere along the way, broken faith with the thing I was looking for. That I
What ‘threshold’ actually names — and what ‘liminal space’ usually means by it The word “threshold” comes from the doorway — the wooden or stone strip you step across when entering a house. It is a real physical thing. It is also, in older usage, the floor of the threshing-room: the place where grain was
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What I was looking for when I was looking for my true self For most of my adult life I was looking for my true self. I did not always call it that. Sometimes I called it my real life. Sometimes my actual calling. Sometimes the thing I was actually going for. The names changed.
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What ‘letting go’ promises — and where resistance to change actually lives For decades, “letting go” has been the universal answer in spiritual and personal-development circles. You are stuck — let go. You are anxious — let go. You are clinging to an old identity — let go. The phrase is short, soft, and seems
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What ‘midlife crisis’ names — and what success without meaning is actually pointing to The phrase “midlife crisis” — to those who have heard it applied to themselves, or have started to suspect it applies — names something real. But what it names is rarely what is actually happening. The label arrives with all its
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What “Forerunner” names — and what kind of spiritual teacher this is For a long time I did not have a word for what I do. Teacher was wrong — it had more than what I could honestly hold. Coach was wrong — it pointed at a domain I am not in. Mentor was closer
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